I've been calling certain people 'sour plums'.
Just because they're behaving so sourly.
Sometimes, it gets really childish.
I solemnly admit that I am no different sometimes.
People actually think I'm doing EVERYTHING for attention.
But what gives? They're no different to even EXPECT me to rant about everything.
Give me a break!
From time to time, there'll be instances where people will go up to you for your opinions.
Sometimes it comes off as an advice and sometimes, it's just stupid.
I am not really closed to opinions but if I don't understand your point, justify it.
I asked for your opinions, not orders.
When I gave it to you about my issues, you judge me instead and tell me,
"You always expect people to understand you."
DON'T ALL OF US EXPECT OTHERS TO UNDERSTAND US?
Don't bullshit me with that line.
Grow up a little, the least.
How do you expect others to understand you?
When you consult.
When you talk about your problems.
When you show certain attitude and apologise.
When you APOLOGISE itself.
And many more.
Either way or another, you still have that level of expectation of others to understand you.
So, what's up with that 'you always expect people to understand you' ?
It's a matter of whether that person puts him/herself to understand others.
Apparently, if you can't, don't diss.
Don't be such a sour plum.
You can't give concrete advices and you can't justify your stand when the person consulting you does not understand, then leave appropriately.
At least, do it politely instead of dissing that person off.
From personal experiences, I will have tantrums here n there.
When I asked for opinions or some explanations to clear my doubts, I will stand strong with my emotions because I am disturbed.
That's why I am there, asking for help, because I can't handle it on my own.
Really, when someone else confided in me, I'd do the same.
I'll piss that person off and make sure he/she realises that they have to stop feeling for awhile.
I won't leave until that person at least understands the ideology that's coming from an outsider.
If you're too dumb to understand what I meant by outsider, it means as a person who's not involved in the issue.
An outsider's view can help you. I know.
Oh, you think I'm bragging now?
Take it however you want it.
At least I didn't leave in the middle of everything after I dissed the person off just because I cannot take their overwhelming emotions.
What more, expecting the person to come back to me and APOLOGISE.
But after a while, I cooled down.
I just reminded myself what my eldest told me.
'Some people are not educated enough to know how to deal with such situations or people.'
Sadly, some people are educated enough but held on to their overwhelming ego of 'I'm the best there is' and become unreasonably uncompassionate and mean.
Really, when a person confides in you, you jolly well know that person needs help.
However emotions they're showing, however they're behaving, they were asking for help.
When they asked you, "What can I do?" or "Why is such a thing happening?", you know something is not right somewhere.
You can't handle it, you leave politely and tell that person you can't help.
Not be a child and diss that person off and leave abruptly.
After that, you shut yourself up when the person who was asking for help, wasn't you.
You think your problems are the worst?
You have not a clue.
Yes, I get influxes. Do you know how it feels?
No. Absolutely not.
You have no idea how much you'd hate yourself for not being able to take control of yourself, still.
Yet, you judged a person like me to as if be doing things just for attention.
And you call this selfish of me to be talking about my problems? Get a grip!
I only have 1 husband. It is my husband who's supposed to console me further.
When I asked for your opinions, it simply means I trust your ideas.
But I was wrong. I was wrong about so many people.
I am speaking for every person who's facing it like me.
Who's been struggling and fighting so much for years and on.
The society will not understand you. They're just too much of a busybody to assist you.
They'll think you're crazy and that you're just doing what seems to be impossible to exist.
Fret not, I know you're not crazy.
Keep on fighting. If you have to force yourself, amuse yourself.
Sincerely amuse yourself. Do it for yourself, not for anyone else.
Because society contains most 'normal' people who're just actually, plainly self-centred.
Clearly, they think we're looking for sympathy when all we need is help and support.
However we asked for help in our own way, is not appropriate enough.
So, they perceived it as attention-seeking.
To society, there's a method to ask for help.
Like I mentioned earlier, don't bullshit me.
Ok bye.